It’s been said that one of the easiest ways to get over a past relationship is by jumping into a new one. It’s easy, fast and a safe way to avoid heartbreak almost completely. After all, old love lost can always be replaced by new love gained. But what do you do when you find new love, but still find yourself obsessing over your old love? It could happen to any of us. You may date someone new, but inside, you may secretly dream of getting back with you ex.
You may date someone new, but you’ll never be able to truly love them unless you let go of the illusion of love you’ve created around your ex. Your happy moments will never feel happy, and the minor arguments you [...]
First break up is always painful. No matter how much you try to hate or forget him/her, you’ll end up stalking him/her checking out their Facebook profiles, reading out old texts and conversations etc. But you should keep in mind what not to do post break up in order to get a healthier new life. Here are a few suggestions based on my past experiences with break ups.
1)Never ever try to beg your ex: This is a very common thing for people to do because they are grief-stricken and cannot imagine their life without their ex. You have to start to think about things from their perspective though. How will it look to them if you start asking to constantly give it another try? [...]
I was probably in denial for over a year after my break up, but I was so deep in denial that I had perfected the art of denying that my denial even existed!! So working with denial and acceptance can be a slippery business.
I offer these tips as starting points for getting curious about your confidence after a breakup. They aren’t measurements or goals, but rather ways of noticing how you’re doing, where you’ve slid off course, and give you a sense of how to get back to center. How you’re doing is neither “good” nor “bad.” It’s just the way things are with you today and tomorrow will be different.
1) Work with Denial & Acceptance: The best medicine I have [...]